DNF. As a victim of childhood emotional trauma from my father's anger and a victim of domestic abuse from a rageful narcissistic partner, and having thoroughly worked through these issues with therapists, I was very annoyed at how she claims it is the woman's responsibility to make sure she doesn't attract these men. That I myself am complicit in my own abuse. Absolutely not, it took a decade to finally come to terms that the abuse suffered from these men (and others) and it was NOT MY FAULT. Women are not at fault for the abuse they suffer from men. I didn't ask for it, no woman does, and I took action as soon as it was safe to escape (and that's a possibility I know a lot of women don't have). Maybe this is not what she meant, but she goes out of her way to give men a pass with their bad behaviour. She seems very privileged in her perspective and drastically over-simplifies the complex situations of abusive relationships.

Simply brilliant! Step by step and chain by chain, Dr. Shefali gives us a path to break free from our old patterns to arrive at a new destination: our truest, most authentic self." — MARIE FORLEO, New York Times bestselling author of Everything Is Figureoutable Lumea în care trăim ne-a condiționat să ne transferăm nemulțumirea interioară către exterior, fie învinuindu-i pe ceilalți, fie în adicții cum ar fi cumpărături sau consumul de substanțe. Când simțim zgomotul deconectării interioare, presupunem imediat că lipsește ceva din exterior. Așadar, data viitoare când cauți să dai vina pe ceva din exterior, să repari, să consumi sau să faci ceva pentru a te simți fericită și cu o viață importantă, fă o pauză și întreabă-te ce-ți lipsește acum. Răspunsul va avea adesea legătură cu o căutare a semnificației. Poate cauți validarea, aprobarea, sentimentul de apartenență, nevoia de dragoste sau aprecierea din partea unei anumite persoane. Asta îți lipsește, nu acel „lucru” din afară.So great is our thirst to be seen and validated by our parents and our culture that we succumb to the ego’s powerful and instinctive lure, slowly burying our authentic nature in the process. The result is a false identity, which we now present to the world. We think it’s who we are, but it’s really only a facade we wear to ward off the fear that we are unworthy and unlovable. In the Fog Yet, I did persist beyond good sense, showing a considerable aptitude for folly. Nevertheless, it would appear that this inner capacity to drive myself on like a madman was not without its virtues, for, all of a sudden, everything exploded. How can I describe the sudden nature, the total abruptness of the “event”? I detest using the word “supernatural,” but it’s the only one I can find that properly describes the suddenness of the awakening. With indescribable rapidity, I passed through to the other side of the mirror and found myself waking to an infinite wakefulness in my very center, in the center of that wakefulness which, itself, wasn’t an object but an intemporal act I was able to perform. I knew that I knew all there was to be known, that I had attained the infinite value, touched the essence of the essence of all things and of myself. . . I knew. According to Tsabary, women especially are disconnected from their inner selves due to conditioning from the patriarchy. “Girls are trained to forever forage for three things I talk about: approval, validation, and praise. These are so core to our worth,” Tsabary told Oprah. “Because girls are trained to give up their inner voice in their giving to the other, we lose any sense of our inner connection, looking for the other to validate us. We search for it in all the wrong places.” GF: You’re speaking in a general manner, but, here and now, I’m sitting across from you, my wife is also sitting across from you. Does the awakening give you any particular sensibility or faculty of perception about each person you encounter?

Bestselling author and renowned clinical psychologist Dr Shefali teaches women how to transcend their fears, break free from societal expectations and rediscover the person they were always meant to be.

Dr. Shefali

Vindecă-ți nevoile săpând în interior. În timp ce faci asta, misiunea exterioară se schimbă. Ceea ce credeam că ne va împlini își pierde puterea. Numai când suntem capabile să ne oprim, să pășim în interior și să punem întrebările pe care le-am sugerat eu putem începe să ne „dezaburim” percepțiile și să realizăm că tot ceea ce ne lipsește a fost dintotdeauna în noi.” The world needs to know. Trailblazing. Life-enhancing. A Radical Awakening is one of those books you will want to keep on your nightstand.