Today’s Savage Love Letter of the Day is an outrageous and abusive example of this twisted mentality of ownership, disrespect and devaluing:

Sex is such a funny thing… And forgive me… I just dont have the education nor the language to express this well. What I am trying to say is, sex is almost like a drug. Some try it and its ok… Happy with the high … Dont try to get a better high… Satisfied. Others need to keep chasing the dragon. Its such a fine line to what is normal and what is considered deviant. And that line is blurry at best. I don't ow really know why you go alone with it. Now you obviously like it, because it flatters you. It can lead to other things, but may be not. As for your husband, may be he needs to talk to someone about this fetish of his, because next will come that he wants to see you haing sex with another man. Wow I’m a guy and I’d love have a wife like you. As long as I’m number 1 in her life I’d never expect her to be with customers that she doesn’t want to be with.It took a while and then we met at my home about a month ago , my mom had my children and his mother had his children . He and I had planned this for a 6 months . I paid a trashy drug dealer to get several drugs to experiment not much just enough to give our wives .

One was a ** guy with a 9 inch ** and one maybe you have seen him before he is over weight and likes to slap the woman on the ** when he ** her and he also had a huge **. I was so uttterly reviled by his callous descriptions that it gave me chills. His wife, by the way, had divorced him over it, but he apparently still could not understand “what her problem was”. That was the first time (at age 50) that I had encountered such a person, after a very sheltered and conservative married life. His own adult daughter actually laughed when she commented “oh yeah, Dad’s a bit twisted, but he’s good company”.

My baby was taken away

insistonhonesty, I doubt you are a horrible person. I just didn’t get any of that from Bell’s letter. She states she agreed to one threesome. We can assume it was with a woman, because she explicitly states she (Bell) is bisexual. She doesn’t say it was unprotected, she doesn’t say what level of participation she had…nothing. She just says she agreed to a threesome at some point and had fun. Afterwards, I curled my legs inwards, feeling so ashamed and heartbroken. I cleaned myself up and left but that night changed my life. It’s a night I’ll never be able to erase.” Lately my husband has been asking me to wear very revealing clothes in public. I have tried to accomodate, even though doing so Made me very nervous and self conscious at first. It still makes me feel that way, though less so the more I do it.

I am not sure if this will help, but in my now single life, if the bf is into more kinky than I want — I talk about it. And, if it is a must have, then it becomes a deal-breaker. Sure it sounds simple enough, but it isn’t. I know that long term it will become the deal breaker for them…because it is what makes them feel ‘fulfilled’. (Sorry, I can’t think of a better word.) When people say my letters are too outrageous to be real, I can only respond — you should see my mail. Seriously, I wish I could post every letter. I’m not saying I can’t be snowed (I am, after all, a chump), but there are so many messed up stories out there. Hell, my chump story is messed up. My husband’s is. Well, you have a short memory," says his wife, "Don't you remember about three months ago when we broke down, we received help from a stranger? I think you should help him out. You should be ashamed of yourself!"You’ve drawn the line in the sand for your husband but he keeps jumping over it. It’s incumbent on you to decide if you want to be with someone who disrespects you by doing that. You don’t need permission to enforce your boundaries. It’s your right. If this is a deal breaker for you, it’s also your right to leave. I think that is great!! My husband lets me play with others. He was always there until I was offered money. I tried it for the thrill. But I love it!! Bell, as evidenced by the clarity and conciseness of your letter, and the way you discussed you terms before the threesome, there is no way in hell that your husband’s behavior is due to a miscommunication on your part or perceived consent. He knew he was doing something wrong.