To some extent, all this would be forgivable if Hymowitz were on to something. It is true, after all, that men and women are marrying later; it is certainly true that this has lengthened adolescence; and it sounds reasonable that men would be enjoying these added years of irresponsibility while women are becoming more successful at work. But are men really getting stoned, playing video games and laughing at fart gags in a defeated funk? Might they not merely be doing it because they can? i>Manning Up is a novel-in-verse and therefore very reminiscent of some Ellen Hopkins classics. I definitely would recommend this read to Hopkins' fans! I'm really glad to have found another author similar to Hopkins with gritty, raw plotlines and almost unbearably real narrators. I hope there will be more to read from Bee Walsh in the future! The only downside I have in comparing Bee Walsh to Ellen Hopkins is that Manning Up, being so much shorter than any Hopkins novel, seems more like an outline or draft in comparison. If this novel was more fleshed out it could easily have been 4 stars or higher for me.

I really like the cover of this book and in fact, generally like the covers of Hi Lo books as the ones I have come across are bright, colourful and certainly draw your eyes and attention to them. The genres listed for this book are Children’s fiction, Teens and YA and it does fit those genres but as an adult I still enjoyed reading this book, I would say personally I think the book is aimed at the teenaged end of children’s fiction rather than under 12’s though. What’s your take on what you just read? Comment below or write a response and submit to us your own point of view or reaction here at the red box, below, which links to our submissions portal. Manning Up is a hi-low book, meaning that it contains a storyline that is highly intriguing, yet is not very demanding for the reader, making it perfect for reluctant or struggling readers. (This book's publisher, West 44 Books, specializes in this audience.) Personally, I wanted something light and easy to get through, something to keep my mind at attention. I thought the book had good content, but just wanted it to be more in depth. In my opinion, it is a "just okay" read-- 2 stars. Please, however, remember that I (someone who likes longer, in-depth reads) am not the main audience for this book. You have to be good at what you do, but people also have to know that you're good at what you do,” said Abbajay. In knowledge work, because you’re delivering constantly, nothing you do ever really feels like it’s worth celebrating because you’re always on to the next thing,” said Hays. Part of managing up, therefore, means pausing to consider the impact of your work and making a habit of copying and pasting received praise into the brag document.It’s the manager’s responsibility to initiate this conversation, but if they fail to do so, the individual contributor should ask to have it, Abbajay said. idiomatic) To "be a man about it"; to do the things a man is traditionally expected to do, such as taking responsibility for the consequences of one's actions, displaying bravery or toughness in the face of adversity, providing for one's family, etc. ( Compare man ("brace oneself, steel oneself").) Manning Up is a novel-in-verse and therefore very reminiscent of some Ellen Hopkins classics. I definitely would recommend this read to Hopkins' fans! I'm really glad to have found another author similar to Hopkins with gritty, raw plotlines and almost unbearably real narrators. I hope there will be more to read from Bee Walsh in the future! The only downside I have in comparing Bee Walsh to Ellen Hopkins is that Manning Up, being so much shorter than any Hopkins novel, seems more like an outline or draft in comparison. If this novel was more fleshed out it could easily have been 4 stars or higher for me. I am on a mission to reclaim and redefine what the phrase “man up” means, so that boys and young men coming of age now can be spared from its wrath. There is a critical mass of men already helping to challenge the outdated model of masculinity (many of which are regular readers and contributors of The Good Men Project), but it’s time for all of us to finally come together and embrace this urgent movement to redefine what it means to be a man. By doing so, we are not only advocating for our own well-being, but also promoting a better, healthier, safer, happier world for all. Managing up is the conscious attempt to build a productive working relationship with one’s manager by creating common ground in terms of working preferences and priorities. This involves having conversations about each party’s communication styles, meeting preferences, and short- and long-term goals. It also includes communicating successes and initiating moments of constructive conflict on occasion.

Communicate: Openly, humbly, vulnerably, and constructively. Even when you’re scared. Even when it’s really hard. It’s always better than the alternative. Seek Help: Same rule applies to directions, carrying a massive oak table, and emotional baggage—it’s okay to not do it alone. In fact, we’re all better off when we don’t. Managing up is the process of consciously creating a productive relationship with one’s professional superior — “the art of finding the shared point between your goals and your boss’s goals,” as Hays describes it. By and large, that entails smoothing out the friction that comes with natural differences of opinion, personality and, importantly, communication style. But as any good composer can tell you, a bit of thoughtful dissonant counterpoint sprinkled among the harmonies can be quite effective. Frustratingly, there is some good stuff around Manning Up's neglected fringes. Surely the real story here is not that young men are silly (whom does that surprise?), but rather that, in the US, female graduates under 35 now outnumber and out-earn male ones. Or that parents in America have begun to favour daughters. I had no idea that things had gone so far and would love to read a different book explaining why.Be Humble: Be brave enough to follow someone else’s lead. Recognize that you’re part of a much bigger purpose than just you. Recognize that You Are Enough: This world tries to fool us into believing that we were all born inadequate. Love what you got. Celebrate and cherish it. Know that you are beautiful, important, irreplaceable, and powerful.

That said, remember that not every less-than-perfectly handled moment is evidence that a manager is out of depth. As work advice columnist Alison Green wrote in a Slate article about managing up, “Don’t forget your boss is human: There may be times when she is grouchy, frustrated or frazzled, or times when she would appreciate hearing that she handled something well.” Say “I Love You”: Say it to your male friends, female buddies, family, or whoever is most special to you in your life. Let them know how much they mean to you. You never know when it might be your last chance to do so. But even quantifying the value of software engineering is a murky art. It’s impossible to know the impact of the code you wrote this morning and sheer volume of code is obviously no barometer of impact.

Support the LGBT Community: We’re so much better than belittling others for who they love or how they identify their gender. That’s probably where my emotion came from, the fact it became too much about the referee and not enough about the players unfortunately.” One key reason: what Elliott-McCrea called “the myth of the apolitical engineer.” That’s the tendency among some software engineers to insist upon a “hyper-rational” approach to their work — “letting the work speak for itself” and scoffing at what they perceive to be office politics, which might include managing up.

Get an Environmentally-Friendly Car (or Bike!): Break a heavy-handed male stereotype, respect planet Earth, and save money on gas. The traditional rules about how to be a “real man” in America are breaking down. Economic upheaval has shifted wage earning from men to their wives or partners. The rise of men as primary caregivers of their children is challenging our most fundamental assumptions about gender. The gay rights and trans rights movements are creating expansive new definitions of masculinity. Millennials are leading a much broader acceptance of diversity. It absolutely is a prevailing sentiment among software engineers that politics is beneath them,” he said. But being aware of those potential pitfalls might make it easier to avoid them for those who do write such a document. I did get hung up on two points - both of which diluted the storyline for me and made me lose focus on the more important things.Cook: Embrace the joy and fulfillment of watching a plate of food you made light up a person’s face. There’s a delicious irony in the fact that Hays, who also co-hosts Managing Up, a podcast about management challenges within technical teams, cites this brusque quasi-confrontation as a standout example of the concept with which his program shares a name. If you’ve grown up in the United States, then you’re familiar with the Man Box, the longstanding rules of how to walk, talk, and sound like a man in America: